Porn and false expectations February 4, 2008
Posted by jonesy24 in Christianity, Relationships, You and me.trackback
Porn - whether that’s pictures, videos, etc - gives guy’s false expectations of what a relationship ‘looks like’. They somehow get the impression that once they’re in a relationship, or when they’re married - that’s how it’s going to be.
Porn makes guys think women are something that they’re not.
Pornography: the depiction of acts in a sensational manner so as to arouse a quick intense emotional reaction. (Webster)
This is where I turn the table. Chick flicks and romance novels/stories can and do “arouse a quick, intense emotional reaction”. It’s giving girls a false impression of what a relationship looks like, and how a guy is meant to be. It encourages you (girls that is) to dream of ‘that perfect guy’ and hope for ‘one just like him’.
Seriously… where do you get your idea of what a relationship should look like? (Guys too!). You can say your parents - but that’s a married relationship, not a dating or ‘going out’ relationship.
Guys have to be careful they don’t get unrealistic expectations in what a relationship is going to be like. Girls have to do the exact same.
Guys - stop watching porn for one. And don’t expect that your girlfriend or wife is going to be anything like the ‘pornstar’.
Girls - Be careful you’re not wanting something that doesn’t exist, or at least is very very rare. Life isn’t a fairytale. You’re never going to find a guy with no flaws, shortcomings, or insecurities.
Guard your hearts.
yeah i like your post… i was listening earlier to the olde damien rice and he says ‘this is love, this is porn’ in one song, and i’m sitting there thinking, Damien, no… love and porn are sooooo far apart. sex without love is always found wanting. and one of my fave’s is ’sex is a celebration of the relationship’.. so when you put guys expectations alongside girls… you get the romance and the physical intimacy but maybe just in a more real sense, none of that tv-reality!